Hi there! My name is Arfa! I’m originally from Bangladesh and run a blog on Instagram where I love to showcase my style, makeup, and hair. Currently this is a hobby of mine where I love to showcase my creative side where we can express ourselves in the best way, hoping to inspire others. . I recently graduated with a degree in Biomedical Engineering from Rutgers University and currently work in an IT tech company in NJ as a Q&A analyst. Originally I went into college with the hopes of being a doctor, but then changed my viewpoint to biomedical engineering. This is primarily because I feel engineering really taps into the build and framework of processes that I found to be the most interesting aspect of the medical field.
Growing up, one of my biggest positive female influence was my mother. She would continuously encourage me to be the best and perfect version of myself, whether it was with my self presentation, my education, or being the best daughter from a desi societal standpoint. She would always encourage me to get straight A’s – education was the number one thing for her. Other Desi moms would sometimes want their Desi daughters to get married off, but for my mother she wanted me to excel in every which way. To this day, I am always striving for perfection, which of course does put pressure on me, but also pushes me to be the best version of myself.
It’s funny because I don’t really feel like I had a strong female presence with regards to my career. That in and of itself makes me want to do more to change that.
It’s funny because I don’t really feel like I had a strong female presence with regards to my career. That in and of itself makes me want to do more to change that. I feel like people of our generation and our culture have so many social and cultural boundaries to climb which makes it harder for women to succeed in their careers. We are always told to think of our family and other people first, before our own careers and wishes. Some people are OK with doing that and giving up certain pieces of their life, but for me personally, I feel like there’s nothing that should hold you back. If there’s something you want to do, why should anything stop you from doing it? It won’t make you any less of a sister, wife, mother etc. In fact, you’ll be a better version of those things if you’re true to yourself.
In my firm, there are four other women. Most of the people in my workforce are men. I have never felt any type of sexism from the men in my firm, which I am very grateful for because I know other women are not as lucky. I feel like the men in my workforce support me and don’t make me feel any less inferior. My male manager is always telling me how much potential I have and how much the company as a whole values me. It means a lot, especially since it is a very male dominated field. This is a step forward to more equal rights in the workforce that I greatly appreciate.
I think my number one advice to other girls out there is to understand that your emotions are OK and part of loving yourself is accepting all of yourself. It’s a part of being human, and it doesn’t make you any less strong to feel.
I think my number one advice to other girls out there is to understand that your emotions are OK and part of loving yourself is accepting all of yourself. It’s a part of being human, and it doesn’t make you any less strong to feel. Empowerment is taking your emotions and channeling them positively to really make a stronger & more meaningful impact. Nothing that I’ve been through has been easy. But I’d like to believe it is my inner strength as a woman that allows me to surpass my pain. I feel my desire to be the best woman, sister, daughter, & person is what allows me to continue to grow and be something more than the stigma of past and current societies. If it wasn’t for my strong emotions as a woman driving me, I wouldn’t be the person that I am today. So to all the women in this world, accept all of yourself and remember you are the best version of you. And there’s absolutely no one who can take that away from you.